By Susan Fowler | SmartBrief
Getting pure feedback on your performance is essential to your development and ultimate success at anything you do in life. But you face a big problem when it comes to feedback.
Recent studies reveal that in the workplace, most managers don’t like giving feedback, especially when it’s critical or reinforcing direction already given. Worse, when managers do give you feedback, they aren’t good at it despite the money, time and effort that’s gone into training them to deliver effective feedback.
In fact, feedback can often do more harm than good! If this is true at work, imagine how challenging it is to get effective feedback from spouses and partners, friends, parents or coaches.
Why continue to depend on others to give you the feedback you need to develop and grow? Maybe it’s time you flipped the feedback. Don’t wait for it; ask for it. Neuroscience provides additional evidence for flipping the feedback paradigm. Asking for feedback sets up a more responsive brain condition. Requesting feedback delivers the information you need when you need it, but also results in less defensiveness — meaning you are more likely to hear what you need to hear and act on it.
Years ago, I called a a group of subject-matter experts together to discuss a project I was developing. I was so excited to gain insight from their combined experience and knowledge, especially because learning is one of my top values. I described the project, my hopes and dreams, and my opinions on several provocative ideas.
To my dismay, I got no response. Nothing! People just sat there staring at me blankly. I called a break, but not before making some inane comment like, “Who were you before you died?”
During the break, Kathy, one of the participants pulled me aside and whispered, “Susan, I think you called us here for a dialogue and you seem disappointed that people aren’t speaking up. If that’s true, would you be open to some feedback that might be helpful?”
I shook my head yes, eager to hear what she had to say. Without hesitation Kathy explained
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