For a marriage to work, it takes an ongoing investment into the relationship by both people.
Consider this quote from Henry Cloud:
Marriage is only as good as the investment people make in it, and just like other elements of our life, this bond between two people was constructed so that we are either going forward into the growth process or backing away from it. We can’t stay the same, and marriage reflects that reality. The connection either deepens, opening both spouses up to the hearts of each other, or it starts to deteriorate, closing them off from each other.
Problems aren’t something that just occur “out of the blue.” So many times a spouse will say, “Everything was fine until I found out he was abusive,” or, “I thought we were ok until I found out about the affair.” This would not be possible if the marriage was a place for continual emotional investment, risk, vulnerability and honesty. And in hindsight, many couples will say, “We now see the signs we missed before,” and they usually have to do with things, such as:
- Increasing withdraw of need
- Unresolved differences the couple simply walks away from in resignation.
- Preferences for others for needs that the marriage used to meet
- Interests and relationships that are not talked about with the spouse.
Marriage is an investment, and for an investment to work for you, it takes an ongoing commitment to nurturing its growth.
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