We Create Our Happiness — It’s All About Choices and Action

Have you ever gotten caught up in the feeling that happiness is something you find — a destination you reach once everything falls into place?

Maybe you’re waiting for a promotion, a relationship, or a dramatic change in your health or financial situation. The trouble is, when we base happiness on something outside ourselves — something we can’t control — we become passengers in our own lives.

Instead of choosing happiness, we passively wait for it. That’s a recipe for resentment, victimhood, and dissatisfaction.

🌟 The Truth: Happiness Is Created, Not Discovered

Psychologists and happiness researchers agree that happiness isn’t about having everything you want; it’s about how you respond to and appreciate what you already have.

Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, in her book The How of Happiness, highlights that nearly 40% of happiness comes from our intentional choices and actions — not from our circumstances or genetics (Lyubomirsky, 2007).

🟣 Examples of Actions That Foster Happiness:

✅ Showing Gratitude:
Studies show that keeping a daily gratitude journal can significantly boost happiness and diminish symptoms of depression (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).

✅ Serving Others:
Performing small, kind acts for people — whether it’s mentoring a colleague, helping a friend move, or simply sending a thoughtful note — increases happiness and life satisfaction (Dunn et al., 2008).

✅ Setting Meaningful Goals:
Having goals you care about — and making progress toward them — provides a powerful sense of purpose and fulfillment (Emmons, 1999).

✅ Managing Your Thinking:
Cognitive behavioral therapy techniques teach us to identify and reform irrational thoughts, shifting from negativity to a more constructive outlook (Beck, 2011).

😕 Why Dependence Leads to Resentment and Victimhood

When we expect someone else — a spouse, a friend, a boss — to “make us happy”, we surrender control over our own happiness.

This view makes us vulnerable to:

• Disappointment when their actions don’t match our expectations.
• Resentment when we feel powerless to change our situation.
• A passive mindset that disregards our ability to affect our own future.

Instead of choosing happiness through action, we become victims of circumstance.

🌟 How a Life Coach Can Help

A life coach is a powerful ally in this process of choosing happiness.
Here’s how:

✅ Provides Accountability:
Your coach will help you set realistic goals and follow through, turning intentions into action.

✅ Helps Identify Negative Thinking:
Using techniques from psychology, a coach can help you become more self-aware and interrupt patterns of thought that undermine happiness.

✅ Offers Support and Encouragement:
Your coach is a neutral, supportive person who wants you to win — a powerful antidote to negativity and doubt.

✅ Helps Celebrate Success:
When you progress toward your goals, your coach is there to celebrate with you — honoring your effort and strengthening your motivation.

🌟 Take Action Today — Your Happiness Begins Now

The greatest step you can take toward happiness is choosing it.
Don’t wait for someone else to “make you happy”— you have the power to create happiness from the choices you make and the actions you take.

If you’d like a clear path forward, a coach can be your guide, cheering you on, holding you accountable, and helping you realize your potential.

🚀 Call to Action:
If you’re ready to take control of your happiness and start living a more purposeful, satisfying life, I’d like to offer you a free consultation.
Together we can explore your goals, identify obstacles, and create a plan to move forward.

✅ Click here to schedule your Free Consultation today!