Yesterday was the Superbowl and we had some friends over to enjoy the game and enjoy some awesome food (smoked chicken, shredded beef nachos, and fresh salsa). Anyway, in preparing for the BIG GAME Jen Tousignant Porter and I had a family meeting around 1pm. During the meeting we laid out the game plan to get ready for the party (who is responsible for what?) And then, we gave one last rule.
No Social Media, No Smart Devices for the rest of the day (even during the game). And that was for everyone in the house (not just the teens – I was included in this prohibition). At first, it was no big deal. There were times I wanted to grab the phone and check the notifications but for the most part I left it on the counter, plugged in, and upside-down.
Inside of Me
I started getting an urge to look at my phone. I kept feeling my pocket for the phone, looking around for it. Wanting it in my hand. Wanting to swipe.
I assessed why I wanted the phone and I realized it was a nervous reaction to what was happening with the Game.
I started to realize that I go to my phone (a lot) when I get nervous, or anxious, or stressed; and I didn’t like it.
What’s more, when I dug a little deeper; I realized I was really looking for a connection. AND THAT’S THE BIG DEAL. I am looking for a connection to settle my stress. The phone becomes a quick fix. A distraction from reality. A coping mechanism to my need for connection.
The phone is not bad, however, I noticed in my life I can turn a good thing into a “coping” thing real fast.
I’m glad we made the decision and I don’t regret it at all.
“In February 2017, my wife and I took a trip to Israel through our church, organized by Terry Porter. He did a phenomenal job with planning — getting us there and back and, of course, everything in between. Touring and exploring the country was awesome, and for every place we visited, he would reference the Bible, bringing it more to life! Terry is a man excited about teaching and sharing the gospel of Jesus Christ. Throughout the time I have known him, his love and humility have grown deeper and is reflected in his maturity.”
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Kelly Duro of Amazing Resolve
Kelly Duro of Amazing Resolve
Relationship & Marriage Consulting
The time spent with Terry and his Health from the Inside Out philosophy has been significant and life changing. The videos, tools, and resources; along with Terry's guidance throughout our sessions have been insightful, helpful and valuable. We have grown in our personal, mental and relational health. Terry has given us tools to use in our communication with one another that have made us aware of how our words, actions or lack of actions, have affected each other in the past and how to avoid negative habits long formed. Thank You Terry.