Think back to a time in your life when you were deeply hurt in a relationship (recently or in the past).
What were you feeling at that moment? Anger? Resentment? Fear? Helplessness? Ashamed?
Like most of us, you probably wanted to be alone. You wanted to isolate and remove yourself from relationships in a way that protects you from more pain.
But this is not the way to healthy life growth and isolation will actually bring about deeper dysfunction in your life.
It seems normal, almost healthy to isolate. In fact, sometimes we just need to be alone after a conflict to be able to gather our thoughts. However, if we remain isolated we will begin to have faulty thinking; about ourselves (“no one will love me”, “I’ve screwed up too much”, or other fatalistic thoughts). Or faulty thinking about others, this is where we start telling ourselves stories about the other person (and the stories we tell ourselves about them is usually false and disparaging).
But to have real-life, a fulfilling life, we need to move back into relationships with other healthy people.
Proverbs 18:24 (NLT)
There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.
Relationship hurt is a part of life. Please, don’t make it worse by isolating.
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