I came across the following lesson in my “inbox” this morning on the effect of boundaries on others. It’s from the author of Boundaries, Dr Henry Cloud. Please read it and let me know what you think.
Your boundaries are necessary for you and helpful for the people you love.
When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole where you used to plug up their aloneness, their disorganization, or their financial irresponsibility. Whatever it is, they will feel a loss. If you love them, this will be difficult for you to watch. But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them. If you have been enabling them to be irresponsible, your limit setting may nudge them toward responsibility.
- Are you looking to get healthy in a particular area of life (personal, professional, or relational)?
- Are you struggling with a hidden addiction and cannot seem to get past it?
- Are you tired of starting over and over again?