What is the Most Powerful Tool in a Relationship?
Forgiveness is the most powerful tool in a relationship. Here is why:
You will be hurt somehow in every relationship. Relational hurt from those who love us usually is the most painful – because we trust them at a deep level. But, sometimes the one who hurt us doesn’t ASK FORGIVENESS.
So, what should we do?
I had one client tell me, “Terry, I would have to swallow my pride to forgive them.”
And, he did.
Forgiveness is one of the most challenging decisions you can make in a strained relationship.
Forgiveness could help us be more like Christ in our relationships.
Romans 5:6-8 (NLT) – When we were utterly helpless, Christ came at just the right time and died for us sinners. 7 Now, most people would not be willing to die for an upright person, though someone might perhaps be willing to die for a person who is especially good. 8 But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself to become more relational with others:
What do you want?
What do you want to be known for?
To be known as the person who is right?
To be known as the person who is forgiving?
Next time you are challenged with a tough decision, consider choosing forgiveness.
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Cloud, Dr. Henry and Townsend, Dr. John (1999). Boundaries in marriage; Understanding the choices that make or break loving relationships. Zondervan Publishing.
Gottman, Dr. John (1999). The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work. Harmony Publishing.