Galatians 6:4-5 (NLT) – Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. 5For we are each responsible for our own conduct.
A common reason we get stuck in life and we don’t seem to gain the successes we desire is due, in part, to our own dependency on others. Now, depending on others is a sign of health in relationships – we should be able to work well with others and to be able to ask others for help. The problem with dependency is when we refuse to do our own work while expecting others to complete it for us. The behavior of dependency (rooted in irresponsibility) will leave us feeling stuck because we are not accomplishing the “good works” we are commissioned to do.
What To Do.
To get past this dependent behavior one should start “owning” their responsibilities. To own it means to do your job with excellence and not expect others to do it for you.
Some years ago, I received a cold call from someone in the community asking me for a donation (I was serving as a pastor at this time). This person asked me for money to pay her TV cable bill. This was an easy no because they need to own their cable tv bill. It is not a necessity to have TV, but it is to have food and shelter. Although this might be an extreme case, how many times do we feel stuck simply because we are not doing the tasks in life we CAN and SHOULD accomplish.
So, OWN YOUR LIFE. Evaluate your life to see what you expect others to do for you and what you are doing for yourself. The list should include these four areas: your physical health, relational health, spiritual health and your mental health. You are responsible for you.
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Consider a few consulting visits with me (in the office, over the phone or in a Zoom Conference Room). I can help you cut through the clutter of life to get un-stuck and gain some success in life.
What are you doing to gain ownership of your life? Leave a comment below, I’d love to hear what is working for you.