How Do I Know If I Need Marriage Coaching?

Marriage is one of life’s greatest blessings, but it also requires intentional effort and ongoing growth. Every relationship faces challenges, and while some issues can be worked through naturally, others may require marriage coaching to navigate successfully. If you’re wondering whether coaching could benefit your marriage, here are seven key signs to look for.

Sign 1: Communication Breakdown

Drs. John and Julie Gottman, renowned marriage experts, state that “the difference between happy and unhappy couples is how they manage conflict.” If you and your spouse find yourselves stuck in the same arguments without resolution or avoiding difficult conversations altogether, coaching can help you develop healthier communication patterns.

Sign 2: Emotional or Physical Distance

Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, emphasizes that “Love is a choice you make every day.” If you feel emotionally disconnected from your spouse or if physical intimacy has diminished significantly, it may indicate underlying issues that need attention. Coaching can help rebuild connection and rekindle intimacy.

Sign 3: Unresolved Conflict and Resentment

Conflict is normal in any relationship, but unresolved issues can create long-term damage. Les Parrott, co-author of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts, warns, “Unresolved conflict is the enemy of intimacy.” If resentment is building in your marriage, coaching provides a structured environment to work through past hurts and develop effective conflict resolution skills.

Sign 4: Feeling Like Roommates Instead of Partners

Marriage should be a partnership, but sometimes couples drift into a routine that feels more like cohabitation than a meaningful relationship. Dr. John Townsend notes, “Great marriages don’t just happen; they are built intentionally.” Coaching can help you restore a sense of partnership and shared purpose in your marriage.

Sign 5: Trust Issues or Betrayal

If trust has been broken—whether through dishonesty, emotional distance, or infidelity—rebuilding it is essential. Coaching provides a safe space to work through trust issues, rebuild security, and restore faith in each other.

Sign 6: Life Transitions Causing Stress

Major life changes such as having children, career shifts, or moving to a new place can strain a marriage. Coaching can provide guidance on how to navigate these transitions while staying connected as a couple.

Sign 7: You’re Considering Separation or Divorce

If the idea of separation has crossed your mind, marriage coaching could be the intervention needed to gain clarity and work toward reconciliation. Coaching isn’t about placing blame—it’s about finding solutions and strengthening your relationship.

How Marriage Coaching Can Help

As a certified marriage and relationship coach with a Master’s degree Coaching and Consulting from Dr John Townsend, I help couples develop deeper connection, resolve conflicts, and create a stronger foundation for a fulfilling marriage. Coaching provides practical tools, guided discussions, and expert insights to help you and your spouse grow together.

Take the Next Step

Terry & Jen Porter

If you recognize any of these signs in your marriage, don’t wait until problems escalate. Investing in marriage coaching can help you rebuild trust, improve communication, and rediscover the joy in your relationship. We can meet in-person or online via zoom.

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Your marriage is worth the effort—let’s strengthen it together!