Bad things will happen in life. We live in a broken world and you will get hurt, you will be victimized at some point – maybe it has already happened to you. Bad things happen but you don’t have to remain a victim. Humans have the ability to grow and change and overcome.
Henry Cloud, c0-author of the award winning book Boundaries say this about a winner mindset and a victim mindset:
There is a big difference between a victim and a winner. Victims see things the way they are and think they will always be that way, because uncontrollable forces are acting upon them. But winners have a different attitude, especially about failure and trying something new to see if it works better. They know one of the most important things we can ever know: they know that they can learn.
You can learn new skills and I can help.
A couple can learn to communicate.
A depressed person can learn to overcome depression.
A parent with a child out of control can learn how to discipline effectively.
A person without a career can learn a new skill.
A person with a weight problem can learn how to lose weight and keep it off.
A person who gets a bad job review can learn to do better.
A person with a pattern of failed relationships can learn the relationship skills that are needed.
A person who picks bad people over and over can learn why that happens and how to spot the bad ones.
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Consider a few consulting visits with me (in the office, over the phone or in a Zoom Conference Room). I can help you move forward and learn new skills in life.
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