Carry Your Backpack
Hey Guys, Thanks so much for checking out my post on Living an Extraordinary Life. We are halfway through the series and today’s topic is all about what we ARE responsible for. If you missed the first few posts you can find them here:
Dr. Henry Cloud, in his book, Changes That Heal, states that we are responsible for our Feelings, our Attitude and our Behavior (Cloud, 2009). But there is much more that we are responsible for in our personal life to become fully-functioning adults, including:
- The ability to connect well with others and thereby avoiding isolation.
- The ability to say yes and no to others in all areas of life
- The ability to clearly define who you are and who you are not
- The ability to clearly articulate what you are for and what you are against without fear or insecurity
- The ability to move past black and white thinking
- The ability to truly mourn a loss in life; be it a loss dream, desire, a loss of health or wealth, a loss of a loved one, a loss of a pet, etc…
- The ability to have equal, adult leave conversations with other adults. That is, not feeling like you are being spoken down to (as a parent would speak to a child) and you are not speaking down to other adults.
- The ability to be fully grown up in your sexuality.
- The ability to hone your strengths and talents.
- The ability to grow in the areas of physical health, relationships, and spiritual life.
- The ability to apply your past life experience to your future so you don’t make the same mistakes over and over.
WHAT A LIST!
Being an adult can be difficult! But look at the first thing on the list
It’s bonding or connecting well with others.
If you can do this first, as an adult, then as you work through the rest of the list you will not be doing it alone.
Here’s what Paul says about responsibility:
Galatians 6:4-5 (NASB) – But each one must examine his own work, and then he will have reason for boasting in regard to himself alone, and not in regard to another. For each one will bear his own load.
Determine Grow Up
Becoming a full functioning adult is hard work and it will take determination. Nevertheless, when you do the hard work of developing your character, you will not be disappointed with the outcome. You will be able to boast and be proud of the life you have.
And remember this; developing your adult character is your responsibility; you must BEAR your own load.
You Have the Time
This is the start of the second week of COVID-19 restrictions in America. You have the time to RIGHT NOW to work on these aspects of your character structure. What’s more, I am a life coach and I am trained to help you through this process.
Give me a call today (231-499-9069) or email ([email protected]) to set up your free consultation on developing your adult character. I have an Advanced Certificate from Dr. John Townsend in coaching adult character structure. Let’s START today!